Life Lessons that my Children Have Taught Me
Clothes are not worn to impress others. My sons have had simple requirements for their clothing: 1) they had to be comfortable and 2) they had to be able to get them dirty. I don’t think the idea of trying to impress anyone by with clothes ever crossed their minds. They wear what that like and never feel pressured to conform. (Brett – I’m thinking your KC hat!) LIFE LESSON: Wear clothing that makes you happy rather than as an attempt to impress others.
Asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness. For many of us it seems that asking for help was usually discouraged and “learning to do things for yourself” was the way to go. With my kids the opposite it true. They depend on me. If they have trouble with their homework they ask for help. If they need a little extra allowance money to buy something they ask for help. If life throws them a curveball socially, they ask for help. LIFE LESSON: When your request is honest and valid, help is what you deserve and will receive.
Fancy possessions and character are completely unrelated. Do you remember what it was like when you started elementary school and made new friends? I loved watching my kids as they made friends when they were little. They didn’t care what kind of house other kids lived in or what kind of clothes they were wearing. They accepted everyone and played with everyone. Each person started the day on equal footing. I loved that they didn’t pre-judge other kids by comparing what each of them had. LIFE LESSON: Remember to judge people for who they are INSIDE, not by what you see OUTSIDE.
Every day is a new day. Kids have an uncanny ability to turn the page quickly. They can have disagreements with friends / siblings and they are best friends with them the next day. They forgive much more easily than adults and don’t seem to hold grudges. LIFE LESSON: Life can be more peaceful and happy if you can learn to forgive and forget.
Always make time for the people you love. When people are living their last day on earth, I doubt anyone ever says they wish they worked more. Instead they look back on their lives and cherish the time spent with the people who matter the most to them. My kids still make sure to spend quality time with their parents. We still sit together after school, share a snack and they tell me about their day and the latest gossip. They “pause” what they’re doing when their dad comes home from work to make sure they have some time to chat with him. They appreciate how important it is to make time for those they love. LIFE LESSON: The people we love the most may not be with us tomorrow so make time for them today.
These are just a few of the things my children have taught me.